Don’t spend the rest of your
singlehood being jealous of those who already have husbands, nor throw tantrums
at God for forgetting you. No more pity parties. You not going to put your life
on hold as you do calculations on how God is going to give you a husband, when
He is going to give you a husband, or wonder if He even intends to give you a
husband. You must soberly determine what is beneficial for you to do between
now and 'I DO'.
This is because biological clock
has been blamed for making women settle for a Mr. Right Now instead of waiting
a little bit longer for the Mr. Right. With so much fear that they may not be
able to 'compete' with younger looking women, some make themselves so cheap and
act desperately and clingy, and in so doing they make the men in their lives
flee for dear life. Some have forced themselves in their men's lives so much so
that you would think they were already married, and because men like free
services like those of a cook, cleaner and such, they play along knowing that
they will never pop the question to these women.
When you are busy losing your
respect to a man who will never marry you, you are denying one who could be
your Mr. Right the chance to meet and love you. You cannot afford to sabotage
your future by acting like a wife to someone who will never make you one. Come
on ladies, uphold your dignity!
The rush to be in a relationship, just to have
someone in your life does not allow room for the establishment of the key
ingredients of a healthy relationship, the love of self first.You
would need to invest love in yourself first when you are looking for someone to
love you. However, as you begin to grow you will come to
understand that the very key to having more love in your life. is to
demonstrate to yourself that you are loveable. You do this through
self-mastery, self-care, and self-love.
The more we practice self-mastery the more we can look deep within and find
the things our mirrors (relationships) show us about ourselves through the
broken and troubled relationships we have had. We begin to fix our issues
and settle the trauma and drama that is going on within. Once we come to
a place where we are fully engaged in loving ourselves we are then ready to let
go of our egos and allow love to naturally be a part of our experience.Moving out of desperation for love is imperative to true harmonious relationships. Both parties are engaged in relationship because they are comfortable in their own skin and bring to the table healthy, thinking and contemplative models that are prepared to do the necessary self-work that brings about the full beauty of the relationship.
Stop being desperate for love. Desperate for a man or desperate for a woman. Sit still and realize that desperation does not bring about the perfect relationship. It brings you more pain and suffering as you complicate your life with a new experience that results in a painful ending for you to sort through another lesson.
