2014 was an amazing year for me but of course l had a few challenges but by God's Grace l managed to overcome them.
In 2014 i had a chance to be a guest in Woman Without Limits a program in Ntv hosted by Rev Kathy Kiuna. It was dubbed "singles chat", with 10 single accomplished ladies and 10 single men. We started with the ladies and while at it,the host asked me a very intriguing question, about emotional stability. It took me by suprise because at that particular time l was going through a very tough time emotionally but for the sake of the show l gave her an answer which l would say was for the tv audience but in reality there was more than meets the eye.
During the program she said something that really struck me....as to why it's so crucial for women to be emotionally stable because men can't stand unstable women emotionally and vice versa, l personally can't stand a man who can't hold it together. Immediately she said that, i realised part of the reason so many ladies are still single it's because they have no emotional intelligence and right then l wished l had covered that in my book "I GOT IT ALL BUT STILL SINGLE?"
Emotional intelligence (EI) refers to the ability to perceive, control and evaluate emotions. The ability to express and control our own emotions is important, but so is our ability to understand, interpret, and respond to the emotions of others. Psychologists refer to this ability as emotional intelligence, and some experts even suggest that it can be more important than IQ.
I have learnt through experience how admirable it is to have emotional intelligence. Being a cool,calm and collected lady as opposed to being a drama queen which is rather unattractive.
It demonstrates you are a lady who knows who she is and what she wants in life, a secure lady. Having been a "Drama Queen" at some point in my life,it is not a trait l was proud of at all and having worked on myself in regards my emotions it is such a great feeling to now be incharge of my emotions. You stand out like a queen and you attract great men your way unlike being a drama queen where l would attract not so good men. Remember you attract who you are. Be who you want to attract.
Being incharge of my emotions has greatly improved my personal life in all aspects and how l relate with people.
We all probably know someone who is a master at managing their emotions. At least l do, many and now can count myself in the same list.They don't get angry in stressful situations. Instead, they have the ability to look at a problem and calmly find a solution. They're excellent decision makers, and they know when to trust their intuition. Regardless of their strengths, however, they're usually willing to look at themselves honestly. They take criticism well, and they know when to use it to improve their performance.People like this have a high degree of emotional intelligence, or EI. They know themselves very well, and they're also able to sense the emotional needs of others.
Work on your emotions,study materials on how you can do that like l did and trust me you will realize it is so worth it. Your life will change for the better. Let's strive to be ladies who are in control of their emotions irregardless of our situations or "hormones". You can make that your new year resolution. God bless you all.
