It is not a curse to be single. It is not wrong to fantasize about
being married just like your friends. What is wrong is to spend your life being
miserable or to put your life on hold, wasting God given precious moments
simply because you feel like your shelf life is over or almost over and no
man/woman seems interested in you.
You should therefore purpose to make the most of the season of
singlehood because there are some things you can only be able to do when you
are single, and there are some adventurous trips you can only make when you are
single. With marriage and family come more responsibilities and
more lives and so you may not have the freedom to do what you want.
You may not see it that way, but the same way marriage is a gift, so is
singlehood. You should not waste one gift from one
pity party to another as you wait to get to the other, both should
be enjoyed. To enjoy singlehood, we need to first of all stop feeding on some
age old lies and annihilate them. Tomorrow is not guaranteed, so choose to
enjoy your today. Joyce Meyer once said, “Enjoy where you are on your way to
where you are going.”
Contrary to some beliefs in some cultures that singlehood is a
transition stage between childhood and marriage, it is key to know that it is a
season just like any other. Depending on one's destiny which is unique,
singlehood can also be a long term lifestyle choice so it is important that you
know that even in a world of married couples, you still have an identity and a
special place in the family of God. Some people say that one is not complete
until they get married. This is a lie from hell –you are so complete! You do
not need a man to complete you; you only need him to compliment you.
In response to some issues concerning marriage and being single,
Paul said this:
“Now to the unmarried and to the widows I say: it is good for them
to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should
marry, for it is better to marry than toburn with passion.” 1st Corinthians 7:8
There are several messages in this scripture but key to this
article is the message that getting married is not the only God ordained
lifestyle. Nowhere in the Bible is it written that it is mandatory for one to
get married. Do not let familial and societal pressure to jump into a long term
decision that you
might regret for the rest of your life. If you are convinced that marriage
is not for you, then go ahead and enjoy being single. Avoid the rush
because the grass is not greener on the other side.
Enjoy singlehood now and do not let anyone tell you that the grass
is always greener on the other side of the matrimonial fence. Whether the grass
is greener or not depends on the effort either side is making. Someone once made
a joke that if the grass is greener on the other side then the water bill must be
higher too!
Ask your married friends and some will tell you that 'happily ever
after' is a thing that does not exist in most marriages and that if they could
turn back the hands of time, they would not
cross over to the other side. Stop wasting precious time thinking
that life would be much
better if only you were married. Some people think that their loneliness
can be cured if only they could get married, only to realize later that
marriage can be a very lonely place to be.
Others want to get married so that they can FINALLY be happy.
Truth is, no one can make you happy, your marriage partner can only compliment
your own happiness, so before you start thinking that the grass is greener on
the other side, try making the grass on your lawn green as well. Strive to make
it better even in singlehood. Quit the obsession to get married just because
everyone of your friends is getting married. You might land on the other side
of the fence only to realize that hidden by the green grass are some thorns/sewage.
Be single and satisfied!!!
© Copyrights 2014 by Nelly Gatonye.
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