GROW UP!!!

It’s mandatory for everyone to grow up i.e. mature.

What is maturity? We are all expected to change as we grow unless you’re not normal. But l have realized maturity is not so obvious.

They are people who still behave and reason the same way they did when they were kids/teens.

According to Wikipedia definition of maturity is the ability to respond to the environment in an appropriate manner. This response is generally learned rather than instinctive.  Maturity also encompasses being aware of the correct time and place to behave and knowing when to act, according to the circumstances and the culture of the society one lives in. So according to this definition we are expected to deliberately purpose to unlearn some childish behaviors and simply grow up.

I believe these are some of the things that shows one has matured;

1.      Keeping long-term commitments.

One key signal of maturity is the ability to delay gratification. Part of this means one is able to keep commitments. One can commit to continue doing what is right even when they don’t feel like it.

2.      Unshaken by flattery or criticism.

As people mature, they sooner or later understand that nothing is as good as it seems and nothing is as bad as it seems. Mature people can receive compliments or criticism without letting it ruin them or sway them into a distorted view of themselves. They are secure in their identity.

3.      Possessing a spirit of humility.

Humility parallels maturity. Humility isn’t thinking less of yourself. It is thinking of yourself less. Mature people aren’t consumed with drawing attention to themselves. They see how others have contributed to their success and can even sincerely give honor to their Creator who gave them the talent. This is the opposite of arrogance.

4.      Decisions are based on character not feelings.

Mature people live by values. They have principles that guide their decisions. They are able to progress beyond merely reacting to life’s options, and be proactive as they live their life. Their character is master over their emotions.

5.      Expresses gratitude consistently.

I have found the more I mature, the more grateful I am, for both big and little things. Immature children presume they deserve everything good that happens to them. Mature people see the big picture and realize how good they have it, compared to most of the world’s population.

6.      Prioritizes others before themselves.

A wise man once said: A mature person is one whose agenda revolves around others, not self. Certainly this can go to an extreme and be unhealthy, but I believe a pathway out of childishness is getting past your own desires and beginning to live to meet the needs of others less fortunate.

7.      Seeks wisdom before acting.

Finally, a mature person is teachable. They don’t presume they have all the answers. The wiser they get the more they realize they need more wisdom. They’re not ashamed of seeking counsel from wise people (parents, pastors, mentors) or from other sources. Only the wise seek wisdom.

So, please purpose to grow up, to mature and life will be bliss.